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Beginning Again!

Hi! I'm Margot!

Hi! I’m Margot!

In June of 2014, I joined a very interesting and knowledgeable group of people called Wealthy Affiliates. The group is made of people wanting to learn about making a profit on the internet. The lessons on the site were thorough and insightful. I learned how to build and publish a website on the internet! I did so and kept up with posting thoughts and ideas for a few months. Life, somehow, got in the way and I found myself so busy and distracted with other things, I lost my way and failed to continue the blog.

This past week, I’ve spent some time considering my life and what I thought was important. Spending the time researching my interests and recording my thoughts on them in a blog on my website IS important to me. Some people may think my blogs just a lot of rambling, but I know putting my thoughts down in a blog is cathartic.

I hope my blogs can benefit others and help them consider life and how they may help others live a fruitful life. I plan on beginning again writing thoughts and ideas, and sharing with others through the blogs on my website.

To Your Abundance!

Margot

www.Anabundantwoman.com

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On Being An Assertive Abundant Woman

“The only healthy communication style is assertive communication.” ~Jim Rohn

There are many people, especially women, who confuse assertiveness and aggressiveness as one and the same, so they make sure they do not show assertiveness in their daily lives and instead come across as passive.

When you are being assertive, you are respectfully speaking up for yourself and what is important to you clearly and confidently.

Aggressive woman

Aggressive woman

On the other hand, when you are aggressive, you are attempting to exert your influence on another to get what you want in a disrespectful and pushy manner, often detrimental to the other person.

Some women might have been raised to set aside their needs and opinions in order to support and agree with others. Many women are very uncomfortable asserting themselves, thinking that by doing so, they are hurting the feelings of others, or fearing confrontation and rejection of their assertions. Since they don’t express their wants and desires, they end up being virtually invisible because no one knows what they really like or want.

Assertiveness is a skill that takes practice. It may always be easier for you to swallow your feelings, bite your tongue or give them the silent treatment, but assertiveness is a much better strategy. It works because it shows the respect you and others deserve.

Four Types of Assertions

1. Basic assertions are when you simply state your feelings, beliefs or opinions. These are normally ‘I feel’ or ‘I want’ remarks. These shouldn’t be difficult as long as you’re in touch with your needs or your feelings, and they are important enough to you to be voiced.
2. Empathetic assertions are usually in two parts, with the first expressing that you understand where the other person is coming from, followed by an explanation of your thoughts and feelings rights: For example:
‘I know you have been very busy, but I also want to feel our relationship is important to you. I want you to make more time for us.’
3. Escalating assertions are If the other person is not responding appropriately to you basic assertion, you have the right to become more emphatic. It could include some kind of ensueing action. For example:
‘If you don’t return my money, which I clearly stated was a loan, I’ll be taking legal action.’
4. I-Language assertions are three-part statements, and are useful for dealing with negative feelings. They can help you in effectively focusing and clarifying your feelings. It includes:
When you… (whatever it is you do)
The effects are… (explain how it effects you)
I’d prefer you… (explain what you want)

Practice these steps when you are needing to be assertive to get your point across or your wants expressed.

STEP 1: Start with making small requests

First, using a minimum number of words, be clear as to what you want so there is no confusion. Make a few small requests of others. For example, request that you be moved to a different table at a restaurant if you prefer one other than where the wait staff is directing you. Another example would be to ask the cashier for different denominations than you were given when you get change for a purchase.

Once you are comfortable with this, try stronger requests from co-workers, family and friends. Request assistance with chores you normally do yourself.

When at work, make requests of co-workers you would normally handle yourself.

Whenever possible, avoid using if, but, perhaps or maybe.

You’ll soon find you feel more confident and are able to voice your requests easily.

STEP 2: Learn to say “no”

The biggest reason people are afraid to say “no” is fear – fear of rejection, seeming selfish or hurting the feelings of the other person. Can you remember times that you wanted to say “no”, but didn’t have the confidence or courage?

Say No

Say No

Having the ability to say “no” clearly and confidently is a sure sign of a mentally healthy human being who is able to set boundaries.

It’s okay to say “no”! In fact, it is very important for your own mental health.

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” – Warren Buffett

STEP 3: Quit feeling guilty

Do you cringe if you ask the waiter to take food back to the kitchen at a restaurant because it was cold or undercooked? You paid money for this food that is not prepared to your satisfaction. You can kindly ask the server to take it back to be prepared as you wish.

If you have to turn down a friend’s request for a ride to the airport or train depot when your schedule makes it impossible to do so, do you feel guilty?

Possibly, you were taught that putting others before yourself is the right thing to do and makes you a bad person if you didn’t.

Using up your own time, effort and energy for others all the time does not make you a spiritually enlightened person. You can end up doing harm to yourself physically, emotionally and even financially. Taking care of yourself and your needs first instead of putting the needs of everyone else makes it possible for you to give your best to others when really needed. Sometimes that means saying “no”.

What Else Can You Do?

If you have issues expressing yourself in a manner that is far from being assertive, there are so many resources online that can help you learn to do so. A couple of books worth reading are

:
“The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships” by Randy J. Paterson

“When I Say No, I Feel Guilty” by Manuel J Smith

So, take some time this week to speak up for yourself and what you want. You are worth it and that’s important!

“We must teach our girls that if they speak their mind, they can create the world they want to see.”
Robyn Silverman

Thanks for reading! Please share your thoughts and ideas in the comments section below.

To your abundance!
Margot

 

 

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Three Possible Ways To Change Beliefs As An Abundant Woman

The brain, in which the conscious mind is included, is that three-pound organ in your head. The complete mind, which also includes your subconscious and unconscious, is much larger and more elusive. There is a vast difference between brain and mind and there are books that go into intricate detail on what these differences entail.

Until you find some way to alter the deep seated and self-limiting beliefs, most of which you’re not even aware, all of the personal development programs you try will fail, as they are based on dealing on the conscious and subconscious levels. The negative beliefs in your unconscious mind sets limits for you. When you rid yourself of these limits, you can do things you thought impossible.

What Are Your Self-Limiting Beliefs?

In order to change these self-limiting beliefs, you must first become aware of them. They are constantly affecting your life as you go through your days.

Limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs

As I’ve stated before, change does not occur on the conscious, superficial levels, through simple positive thinking. It involves searching, discovering, and changing our deepest thoughts and feelings toward life.

It takes practice and determination, but you must become aware of your thoughts and feelings throughout your day. Make note of your emotions and how you are feeling about specific situations in your life that you wish to change. Your emotions and feelings will give you the indication of your deep seated beliefs.

Can You Change Beliefs with Positive Affirmations?

The definition for affirm is to say that something is true in a confident way. Many people hope that by repeating positive affirmations to themselves in the mirror and reading them from post-it notes stuck around the house, they will make the changes that they so deeply desire occur.

Although daily positive affirmations might be helpful in making you feel good and raising your self esteem on a short term basis, they are usually much further away from your true belief system, so it is virtually impossible to make the permanent, positive changes needed in your beliefs. With each positive declaration that is different than your true belief, what you are trying to affirm is incompatible with a deeply held negative belief and your unconscious will dismiss this as just not true.

Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations target the conscious and subconscious levels of your mind, but not the unconscious mind where beliefs are forged. So, if you are using a positive affirmation to change a negative belief, the unconscious will fight for survival and what you really desire will most likely fail to manifest. However, there are many people and websites who disagree.

If you use positive affirmations, I suggest you use them for quite a long time as soon as you wake and right before you sleep as your mind is more open to suggestions at these times. and as often as possible throughout each and day.

Changing Beliefs with Hypnosis

What you focus on influences your beliefs which influences your habits which, in turn, influences your reality. Your reality is also subjective and influenced by what you choose to see in the world. If you were told to make a list daily of the things that made you unhappy, depressed and terrible for a year, at the end of the year, you would say the quality of your life is terrible because all you’ve been focusing on is the terrible, have begun to believe in the terrible and your reality will manifest in the same way.

Your beliefs and habits become so deeply ingrained, it seems almost impossible to change them, but have no doubt, they can change. Hypnosis can help you change your focus, your beliefs, your habits and your realities. Hypnosis can help you change your reality into any form you wish to see.

Hypnosis can put your mind into an altered state of consciousness. You’re not awake, nor are you asleep. The two parts of the mind that are active during hypnosis are the parts that control intense concentration (focus) and intense relaxation, the subconscious and unconscious.

Hypnosis

Hypnosis

Hypnosis helps your mind become open, suggestible and adjustable. Small simple changes made in your unconscious during hypnosis can begin to make very large changes in your reality. The quality of your life is determined by how well you control your own thoughts. Any negative belief or thought you have can be changed using the power of your mind through hypnosis.

If you are unable to find a local reputable hypnotist, recorded sessions are available online and can be just as helpful. I personally have used this organization for these and become an affiliate because of my belief in their ability to help in many ways. Dr. Steven G. Jones is a world renowned hypnotherapist with over 22 years of success.

Change Beliefs with Creative Visualization

“Creative visualization is the technique of using your imagination to create what you want and expect in your life. You are already using it every day, every minute in fact. It is your natural power of imagination, the basic creative energy of the universe, which you use constantly,  whether or not you are aware of it.” Shakti Gawain

Shakti Gawain wrote her first book on creative visualization back in 1978 entitled “Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life.  “There have since been revised and updated versions of this inspirational best seller.

Creative visualization incorporates the use of the imagination with affirmations. As the imagination gives access to the unconscious, the affirmations have a much greater impact for change than using them alone.

Creative Visualization

Creative Visualization

As you become familiar with using creative visualization and begin to trust the results you are experiencing, you will be able to make it an integral part of your consciousness. It becomes a state of consciousness, a continuous awareness in which you are always aware that you are the creator of your life.

Lisa Nichols has an innovative and very effective program on creative visualization and is currently traveling around the world giving very successful and enlightening workshops and seminars. For those who cannot attend her workshops to learn the best ways of practicing creative visualization, she is now offering her Creative Visualization program online or with a cd set. You can find information on that here. I am so impressed with this program, I have become an affiliate for this program.

“You are the designer of your destiny. You are the author of your story”. Lisa Nichols

Change Your Beliefs to Create an Abundant Life


“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha

Your mind not only controls all of the systems of the body, it also controls your thoughts and feelings. These thoughts and feelings come from the beliefs you hold in your unconscious.

How Your Beliefs are Formed

Your beliefs are the truths you feel about yourself and your life, and began forming when you were an infant, watching the actions of those you held as authority figures and in whom you trusted and learned from – parents, teachers, religions, musicians, peers, advertisements, etc.

mind-beliefs

mind-beliefs

As a child, your mind was a sponge, absorbing all you saw and heard from authority figures. Although your parents may have done the best they could in raising you correctly, they could only pass on the beliefs they had as parents, many of them based on fear. “Don’t expect too much out of life, you’ll only be disappointed”, “Rich people are greedy and selfish”, “You have to work hard all your life if you want to save/earn/have money”, “Money is at the root of all evil”, “You must be beautiful to be popular”.

For those children whose parents did not try to do their best, or thought negative reinforcement would help them in the world, beliefs were even rougher… “You’re not good enough”, “You’ll never amount to anything”, “You’ll always be (fill in the negative word)”.

As your unconscious mind absorbed the lessons from the words and actions of these authority figures, your brain forged neural pathways in which these beliefs were then held.

Freud said, “We learn as children how we react emotionally and this is carried into adulthood.

The Mind

mind

mind

There are three parts of the mind, the conscious, the subconscious and the unconscious.

Conscious mind – This is the part of your mind that is aware of what is currently happening around and to you, along with some specific mental functions.

Subconscious mind – Also called the pre-conscious mind. This holds the available memories and information you can become aware of once your direct your attention to it, i.e., how to get home from where you are, phone numbers you frequently use.

Unconscious mind – This consists of the primitive, instinctual wishes as well as the information that we cannot access. During our childhood, we acquired countless memories and experiences that formed our beliefs and who we are today. However, we cannot recall most of those memories.

Your Beliefs Affect Your Abundance

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Every decision you make in your conscious mind has already been affected by your unconscious. If you have self-limiting beliefs regarding a decision, it matters not what you decide, the outcome will not have the positive affect you may desire. Your repressed, unconscious mind will do anything to give you exactly the experience of your limiting belief!

Limiting belief

Limiting belief

If you have negative beliefs about money, your life experiences will match those beliefs. If your beliefs tell you that you do not deserve a happy, loving relationship, you’ll be more prone to find partners with whom you cannot find happiness. If you want a healthy body and lifestyle, but your limiting beliefs are that you are sickly, that is the experience of life you will most likely have.

Your unconscious will protect, censor and dictate your life, so that it becomes a perfect match to your internal, true beliefs and sabotage your desires and actions toward abundance.

Through your actions or behavior, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of doing, being or having the best, you eventually find yourself settling for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live an abundant life. If your belief is that you are you a “victim of circumstance”, that is how you will live out your life and never become a master of your destiny.

You are the creator of your life and are orchestrating everything that happens to you by your core beliefs and ideas about life.  Change your beliefs and expectations, you will change your life.

My next post will be on ways to permanently change your self-limiting beliefs. Do you have ideas and suggestions on how to do that?

Thank you for reading!  Until next time…To your abundance!

Margot

Miracle or Mind-Body Healing of a Truly Abundant Woman?

Anita Moorjani

Anita Moorjani

I recently had the opportunity to read a book written by a truly abundant and inspirational woman. Her name is Anita Moorjani and the book is called “Dying To Be Me”. Click HERE to read my review of the book. Although I knew of mind-body healing and had even experienced it myself to a degree,  Anita’s story was one of absolute inspiration. I would like to share an abbreviated version of her life.

Anita’s Young Life

Anita was born to Indian parents in Singapore. Her paternal grandfather was a textile merchant, and her father traveled the world. When he was finally able to settle down, Anita was 2 years old, and he chose to move to Hong Kong. Because of the vast diversity of the population there, she learned to speak English, Sindhi and Cantonese.

hindu girl

hindu girl

Growing up in Hong Kong, Anita was immersed in 3 different cultures. Since Hong Kong was a British colony, she was exposed to the English way of life at the British Catholic schools she and her brother, Anoop, attended. At the same time, the majority of the population, along with the housekeeper, Ah Fong, was Cantonese and practiced Buddhism and Taoism. And, as I said she was born to Indian parents.

Since she spent much time with Ah Fong after school, shopping and visiting Ah Fongs parents and child, she was very familiar with their way of life and traditions. And, although Anita and her brother, Anoop, went to British Catholic schools in the majority Buddhist Hong Kong, the family practiced the traditional Hindu religion.

Needless to say, being taught by Catholic Nuns in religious studies and then practicing the Hindu traditions brought quite a bit of confusion and angst into Anita’s life. Catholic Nuns were telling her if she didn’t get baptized, she wouldn’t go to heaven. Her mother’s attempts to comfort her on the different ways religions followed different paths to heaven or enlightenment, only relieved the angst she felt for a short time.

Anita’s Teen and Young Adult Years

As Anita grew, continuing to practice the Hindu religion and traditions, she began to question her path. She had no desire to follow her parents’ guidance and agree to an arranged marriage. She wanted to continue her education and go on to college. Her father wanted her to get married and become the traditional, subservient wife of a man in a respectable Hindu family. She felt at odds and began thinking she was flawed in some way because she wouldn’t settle for what her parents wanted for her.

During this time in her life, she met the man she was to marry, Danny Moorjani. She had her misgivings when they first started dating as he was Sindhi. She was sure he was looking for the perfect, submissive woman to be his wife. As they grew closer, though, she found he also questioned and even rejected a lot of the Hindu traditions when it came to women and marriage, and embraced the modernized life in which his wife could pursue her dreams and be a contributing member of society with her work.

In January of 1995, Danny proposed to Anita. Two months later, Anita’s father passed away in his sleep and the family took him to his hometown in India for the funeral. Of course, she was devastated thinking how much she had disappointed him when he was alive.

On December 6, 1995, Anita and Danny were married in a traditional Indian ceremony with festivities that lasted almost a week. She was so happy, thinking they were going to live happily ever after…..

Not long after the wedding, Anita’s brother left for India to start a business there and took their mother with him. For the first time, Anita was living in a different country than the rest of her family, which devastated her. Also, during this time, those in her culture were constantly reminding her she should be having children as it was expected right after marriage. This, of course, she did not want, and again felt inadequate in the eyes of the people of her culture.

Fear and Confirmation of Disease

In 2001, her best friend, Soni, was diagnosed with cancer. A few months later, they found out Danny’s sister’s husband had an aggressive form of cancer. The news of these two having cancer instilled a deep fear in her as they were very close to her age. She soon began to fear being around anything that might cause cancer. As this fear progressed, she began to fear life itself.

lymphoma

lymphoma

In April, 2002, Anita found a lump in her right shoulder. She went in for tests and was told she had lymphoma, and terror took over from there. She refused chemotherapy because she saw how it ravaged her friends’ bodies.

Disease and Death of Loved Ones

It wasn’t long after that, Anita lost her best friend to cancer, and shortly later, her brother-in-law. She ran through the gamut of emotions, every day, day and night – anger, fear, dread, frustration, desperation.

Searching for a Healing Venue

She was seeing several specialists, along with Eastern healers. She was trying hypnotherapy, meditation, prayers, mantras and Chinese herbal remedies to no avail. She continued tp deteriorate. She traveled to India for Ayurvedic treatment, and, for awhile, felt much better. But as soon as she returned and listened to the skepticism of her friends regarding her treatments, the cancer came back with a vengeance.

She became stressed about food, one healing modality stated meat was bad, another stated meat was good, dairy was bad. Yet another stated vegetables were wrong. She worried about karma and what she must have done to deserve what was happening. She lived in a constant state of fear and continued to deteriorate in unbelievable pain.

Near Death Experience

NDE

NDE

On the morning of February 2, 2006, Anita was rushed to the hospital close to death and fell into a coma. Doctors and nurses were rushing around trying to keep her from dying. The Oncologist had already told Danny though, that although her heart may be beating, she was gone.

It was at this time, Anita realized she was fully conscious and aware of what was going on around her, and even down the hall where one of the doctors was talking to Danny. All the pain she had endured was gone. She realized she was witnessing this from outside her physical body.

Her near death experience is more than I can describe here, unless I want to write a book myself. When she returned from this and woke from her coma, her cancer went into remission and soon disappeared. She has now written a book of her experience and is speaking at conferences, lectures and meetings about her experience.

Dying To  Be Me

Dying To Be Me

Anita Moorjani’s experience is a fantastic example of mind-body, maybe soul-body healing. After reading of her experience, I have no doubt we can all experience healing of illness and disease when we have a positive mind and heart and lose fear. Her book goes into so much better detail than I can give here in this short post.  You will find my book review posted under Book and Movie Reviews.

Using Intuition On Your Journey Toward An Abundant Life

Intuition, the ability to acquire knowledge without the use of reason, comes from the Latin verb intueri, which means to look inside or to contemplate. Intuition is believed to be a kind of inner perception, sometimes regarded as true understanding. It provides views, judgments or beliefs that we cannot verify in every case based on observation or experience, or rationally justify.

What Your Spirit Knows

Your spirit knows what’s right for you, what directions you need to take for your highest good. Although your intellectual mind is a great tool, when it comes to the key decisions of your life, it pales in comparison to the wisdom of your intuition.

Einstein intuition

Einstein intuition

Your intuition is constantly feeding you information about people or situations, or providing answers to the questions you are asking. Have you ever had a “gut” feeling and not listened, and later wished that you had? Intuitive information comes to us generally as a feeling rather than logical thought when the chatter in our minds has quieted. All you need to do is tap into it. It isn’t as difficult as you may think, whether you believe yourself to be intuitive or not.

Learn To Tap Into Your Powerful Intuition

Imagine being so powerfully intuitive that you’ll never second-guess yourself ever again. Imagine how that affects your career – when you’re always making the right business decisions, and choosing the most trustworthy partners. Imagine being able to tune in to exactly what your partner is feeling, and how that brings the two of you even closer. Imagine being able to rely on a strong “inner voice” that gives you confident ideas and answers to help you overcome any challenge.

All of this isn’t just reserved for the lucky few who were blessed with good fortune.  The Silva Intuition System helps to discover the power of intuition and unleash an entirely new realm of possibilities for career, relationships and health.

Over 6 million graduates, including scientists, doctors, artists and entrepreneurs have used The Silva Method to experience the full extent of their intuitive senses and live a life beyond ordinary.

An Abundant Woman’s Tale – You CAN Create Abundance!

This is a true story of one woman’s experience, I’ll call her Milly, on attracting and manifesting abundance into her family’s life. I still get a huge smile on my face when I think of how it all came about.

Milly has been involved in spirituality and the Law of Attraction since quite awhile before the hit movie “The Secret” was released. She just didn’t understand how it all fit together, or whether it even did fit.

The Secret

The Secret

It was after she watched the movie, along with quite a few videos recorded shortly after the movie, and read a few books, both new and old, on the subject; that she finally felt she had a grasp on how the Law of Attraction worked. She began to notice incidences and coincidences around her that were obvious examples of the Law of Attraction at work.

Although she knew it worked, she couldn’t seem to figure out what she was or wasn’t doing that kept her wishes and intentions from manifesting. She made a vision board as advised in the movie, along with writing her wishes and intentions, visualizing them and then letting them go so as not to become attached to them.  She worked hard to overcome limiting beliefs, became and stayed grateful for what she had, opened herself to receiving graciously…and still nothing.

Learn More and Apply

She took classes and courses, read books and watched videos on the Law of Attraction, hypnotism, meditation, visualization, the power of prayer and life coaching. As time went on, the literature, videos and training on these aspects became more refined and specialized.

Milly finally began to manifest small things into her life….a parking space close to the door of the store, a specific hotel room when going on vacation, a sale on a specific item for which she wouldn’t pay full retail. She came across a book last November, “E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality” by Pam Grout. She didn’t start reading it until 3 0r 4 months after the holidays.

The book consisted of 9 different experiments to try for noticing, attracting and manifesting people, items, events and money. They started out small and became larger and more complex as the experiments progressed. She went through some the experiments, and actually had success with each experiment performed. After about 4, she decided she was going to try to manifest some money herself.

Writing Your Intention

She sat down and wrote out what she wanted to attract     and manifest, “I am so happy and grateful that we have an additional $x,000 income this year.” As she had been working on a website, wanting to earn some extra money for her family by helping others, which was her passion; she hoped that she would be earning that amount of money by the end of 12 months.

Write intention

Write intention

After writing down her affirmation, she let it go, keeping no attachment to it, as she had learned when taking the courses on the Law of Attraction. And so, a few months passed with nothing really happening on her website. She continued working on it, taking more courses and began building her clientele, with more money going out than coming in at that point.

While all this was going on with her courses and website, things were happening at her husband’s company. I’ll call him Bob. The management had decided to create a new position and asked Bob if he would be interested in a promotion into this position. Although he was the person who told them they really needed to create this position, he had also initially told them he wasn’t interested, thinking he would be getting more headaches than he already had.

From Whence it Comes

Well, the company created the position and asked Bob to apply for it; which, after some deep thought and soul searching, he did. When they offered him the job, they told him he would be getting a raise of $x,000, which was the exact amount she had written in her manifestation intention.

Money

Money

What I find funny is it took a month before Milly realized Bob’s raise was the same amount she had written. On the day she finally realized what had happened, she was watching a short video on the Law of Attraction and manifesting. She was almost finished with the video when she finally realized the manifestation intention she had written a few months before had happened!

In case you haven’t figured it out yet, you might find it funny to know that my husband and I are Bob and Milly. And that is how I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you CAN attract and create abundance!

Attaining an Attitude of Abundance and Affluence

A Word On The Woowoo

What I’m about to discuss now may seem a bit metaphysical, and I suppose it is to anyone not acquainted with these practices. I only ask that you keep an open mind as we go through these.

I’m going to list three different practices you can use to attract affluence and abundance into your life. These don’t follow the norm of what you may have heard when it comes to the Law of Attraction. They were shared by Bert Goldman, the American Monk, who also introduced Quantum Jumping, which I’ll explain in another post.

1. – Awareness of Your Actions

Awareness

Awareness

In the evening, just prior to going to bed, go over the events of the day. Ask yourself what you did that day that you would rather have done differently. What did you do that day that was wrong?  What did you do that you could have done better?

Going over these events, you may find that there were quite a few things that you could have done better, differently; possibly as many as ten to twenty or more. By doing this, you become more aware of yourself, of the things that other people see in you that perhaps you don’t see when you look in the mirror. Do this for a week or two.

Self Sabotage & Limiting Factors

What does this have to do with attaining an attitude of abundance? It all has to do with self sabotage, which I’ve spoken of in a previous post. When you do something that is wrong, or not to the best of your ability, there is a little measure of guilt that comes in.

You may feel you want to repeat the act correctly, or as it should have been done; but, if you don’t admit you’ve done anything wrong, then there’s nothing to repeat. In other words, it festers in your inner conscience. It chews away and causes a great deal of limiting factors in your life.

When you feel you’re limited in some aspect of your life, then you feel you only deserve so much. For example if you feel limited in relationships, then you feel you only deserve so many friends and these friendships will only be so fulfilling.

If you feel limited in wealth, then you only feel you deserve to be in a certain income bracket. If you make more than what you feel you deserve, it somehow gets lost or squandered until you’re back in the area of income in which you are comfortable or feel you deserve to be.

Keep Up the Practice

Limitations cause people so many problems in the areas of health, wealth, relationships and a myriad of other aspects of life. After you have been using this self awareness practice awhile, you’ll get to a point where it will be a few days when there isn’t anything you would have done differently or better. When you get to this point, then you’re ready for the next step to attaining an attitude of abundance.

2. – Activating Your Internal Electromagnet

This is a simple process. You tense your shoulders, neck and head slightly; then, just close your eyes.  Keep everything from the shoulders up slightly tensed, almost to the point you can feel yourself quivering.  As I said, it’s a simple process.

Attracting Abundance With Electromagnetism

Once you’ve activated your electromagnet, you are able to begin attracting the abundance you want into your life. With your eyes still closed and your electromagnet still activated, visualize what it is you are wanting to attract for a few minutes; then, just let it loose. Do this a few times a day.

3. – The Rhythm of Abundance

Rhythm

Rhythm

Every aspect of life has its own flow or rhythm, and abundance is no different. Here is an example of what I mean. There’s the story you hear about wealth or poverty consciousness. You give a million dollars to a person with a poverty consciousness; and, within a year, that person will not have any of the money left.

Adversely, If you take a million dollars away from a person with a wealth consciousness, that person will have gotten that money back within a year or so.  A person with a wealth or poverty consciousness has a certain energy or rhythm to their consciousness.

Learning Your Rhythms

One way of finding your rhythms is with the thought of food. First, think of a food you really enjoy. Begin tapping a rhythm with your hand, whatever feels right, on your chest, your thigh, the table. Become aware of this rhythm. Next, think of a food that you really do not like at all. Tap a rhythm while thinking of that food. You’ll probably find that the rhythm is slower when tapping on what you dislike.

Another way, and one that you will probably appreciate more for the use you want, is to tap your rhythm while remembering a time when you had a lot of money, even if it was just for a day or so, or when you really felt affluent. Also, learn your rhythm for when you didn’t have any money or abundance of what it is you are wanting.

Once you have these rhythms established, make a practice each morning of tapping your rhythm for abundance for about 30 to 60 seconds. You can do this more than once a day; but, you should refrain doing so before bedtime since your sleeping state is yet another rhythm.

A Message For the Skeptic

skeptic woman

skeptic woman

Even if you are skeptical, give these practices a try. Do them for a few weeks and see what happens. You may be pleasantly surprised. When you stop and think about it, what do you have to lose? After a few weeks, ask yourself….does it work? If it does, then you’ve found new ways to attract affluence and abundance!

Journaling to Overcome Self Limiting Beliefs

Identifying Self Limiting Beliefs

In my previous post “Sabotage of the Subconscious Mind of an Abundant Woman”, I discussed some of the self limiting beliefs we have all accumulated throughout our lives… I’m inadequate, I’m worthless, I’m defective, I’m unattractive, I’m a loser, I’m a failure.  And those are but a few that we have become buried in our psyches.  The trick is to really pay attention to your thoughts and feelings throughout your day.

Limiting beliefs are very powerful. You’ve had them, thought them, felt them for years.  From the time you first experience life, you are inundated with the self limiting beliefs of your parents, grandparents, extended family and friends, your culture and religion.  The more you think of them, the more  energy you give them. The more energy you give them, the more they hold you back from having the abundant, joyful life you deserve.

Your beliefs become your reality.  You will always find evidence to support your beliefs, and to have them become your reality.Your feelings are the perfect tool for identifying these self limiting beliefs you may not even realize you have.  You need to be sure to check in with yourself, ask yourself what you are feeling and why.  Don’t fight the feelings, but observe them.  Any negative feelings you are having lead back to self limiting beliefs.

Understanding Limiting Beliefs

Following is a short list of what self limiting beliefs consist of.  What others can you think of

  • Excuses
  • Justifications
  • Worries
  • Beliefs conditioned from religion, culture or family
  • Negative thought patterns
  • Perfectionist thinking
  • Past failures
  • Fears

Journaling Can Help

Journaling

Journaling

Journaling is a very good habit to start.  It’s a great way to get inside your own head, to write down the thoughts and feelings you have.  Start with a goal, a dream or desire.  Write down everything that comes to you,  whether positive or negative.

Be brutally honest with yourself.  Once you have written until you can write no more, go back and find the negative thoughts and feelings.  Pay attention to any patterns you may see.

Overcoming Self Limiting Beliefs

  • Don’t allow yourself to be defined by these beliefs
  • Choose to stop agreeing with the limiting beliefs
  • Question all of the conclusions you have about what you think to be true
  • Take some kind of action to test your assumptions
  • Spend time integrating a new, empowering belief

Sometimes, it can be just that simple.  The biggest hurdle of all will be remembering what you’ve been allowing yourself to believe all these years, and maintaining the new beliefs you wish to put into place.  When you finally realize you have ingrained these positive and empowering beliefs into your daily life, you will begin noticing all the abundant aspects that have been there all along, waiting for you to acknowledge. How many self limiting beliefs have you been holding onto all these years?

Living Abundantly by Giving Abundantly

Far too many people pursuing a life of abundance through the Law of Attraction are doing so for purely selfish reasons.  I will be the first to admit, I began this journey with the LOA largely because of what I could get out of it.  Although I have always wanted to be able to help others, I sought a life of abundance to fill a void. My largest concern was how to make my life more comfortable; mainly, so I could find more enjoyment and fulfillment relationally and materialistically.  I didn’t completely ignore the spiritual aspects of it all, but it was not anywhere near the top of my list.

As I began this new journey though, I was forced to look inward to find the true source of discontent. That’s when I realized the times I was happiest and most fulfilled were the times I knew I had helped others in pursuing their lives of fulfillment. This is not the type of help in which one loses themselves and their sense of self in the process, but of giving that of which they have an abundance. In return, even more abundance is returned.

Giving of Yourself Abundantly

Giving abundantly can take many forms, from the smallest gesture to the largest commitment.  Giving of yourself and what you have brings a glow to your heart.

Glowing Heart

Glowing Heart

Did you smile and thank the cashier and bagger at the grocery?  Did you allow the car in the next lane to merge in front of you?   When was the last time you visited a retirement home, or have you ever?  Have you considered donating time to Meals on Wheels?  If you belong to a church, are you active in their charitable events?  Do you donate clothes or furniture, or do you find it easier to set it all out with the trash pick-up?

I do not have the ability to drive anywhere at any time, but I found I could give my support through an online prayer group.  Even though I am not a religious person, it matters not.  I believe there is a higher power.  Call it God, The Divine, The Universe…prayers, thoughts and intentions are sent, received and answered. There are over 100,000 members in this prayer group.  Can you imagine the effect those prayers have?  Reading some of the messages of thanks brings tears to my eyes.

It Doesn’t Take Much Money to Make a Difference

When I began donating, I couldn’t afford much.  I found that with a few dollars, I could put a Thanksgiving dinner on a family’s table.  I could help feed the homeless that went to a church or shelter for a hot meal on a cold night.

Have you donated money to any charities – international, national or local?  Do you drop your extra change in the Salvation Army bucket during the holidays?  Do you buy those little flags from the AmVets table when it is set up outside the grocery store?  How about supporting the Red Cross when disaster strikes…or before is even better.   There are SO many legitimate charities, from local to international.  Chose one or two, if that’s all you can afford, more if you can do so.  Your heart will truly glow, knowing you are doing what you can to help those less fortunate than you.

Any sort of giving is the perfect way to make you more grateful for what you have.  It will truly make you feel abundant.  And, when giving unconditionally starts to bring more abundance into your life as a way of thanking you, share more.  The cycle has begun, and you will surely be a better, more abundant woman for the giving of yourself and what you have to share.

What have you shared, contributed or donated lately?  Didn’t it make you feel wonderful about doing so?  Share you stories. I would love to read them.

Margot