I recently had the opportunity to read a book written by a truly abundant and inspirational woman. Her name is Anita Moorjani and the book is called “Dying To Be Me”. Click HERE to read my review of the book. Although I knew of mind-body healing and had even experienced it myself to a degree, Anita’s story was one of absolute inspiration. I would like to share an abbreviated version of her life.
Anita’s Young Life
Anita was born to Indian parents in Singapore. Her paternal grandfather was a textile merchant, and her father traveled the world. When he was finally able to settle down, Anita was 2 years old, and he chose to move to Hong Kong. Because of the vast diversity of the population there, she learned to speak English, Sindhi and Cantonese.
Growing up in Hong Kong, Anita was immersed in 3 different cultures. Since Hong Kong was a British colony, she was exposed to the English way of life at the British Catholic schools she and her brother, Anoop, attended. At the same time, the majority of the population, along with the housekeeper, Ah Fong, was Cantonese and practiced Buddhism and Taoism. And, as I said she was born to Indian parents.
Since she spent much time with Ah Fong after school, shopping and visiting Ah Fongs parents and child, she was very familiar with their way of life and traditions. And, although Anita and her brother, Anoop, went to British Catholic schools in the majority Buddhist Hong Kong, the family practiced the traditional Hindu religion.
Needless to say, being taught by Catholic Nuns in religious studies and then practicing the Hindu traditions brought quite a bit of confusion and angst into Anita’s life. Catholic Nuns were telling her if she didn’t get baptized, she wouldn’t go to heaven. Her mother’s attempts to comfort her on the different ways religions followed different paths to heaven or enlightenment, only relieved the angst she felt for a short time.
Anita’s Teen and Young Adult Years
As Anita grew, continuing to practice the Hindu religion and traditions, she began to question her path. She had no desire to follow her parents’ guidance and agree to an arranged marriage. She wanted to continue her education and go on to college. Her father wanted her to get married and become the traditional, subservient wife of a man in a respectable Hindu family. She felt at odds and began thinking she was flawed in some way because she wouldn’t settle for what her parents wanted for her.
During this time in her life, she met the man she was to marry, Danny Moorjani. She had her misgivings when they first started dating as he was Sindhi. She was sure he was looking for the perfect, submissive woman to be his wife. As they grew closer, though, she found he also questioned and even rejected a lot of the Hindu traditions when it came to women and marriage, and embraced the modernized life in which his wife could pursue her dreams and be a contributing member of society with her work.
In January of 1995, Danny proposed to Anita. Two months later, Anita’s father passed away in his sleep and the family took him to his hometown in India for the funeral. Of course, she was devastated thinking how much she had disappointed him when he was alive.
On December 6, 1995, Anita and Danny were married in a traditional Indian ceremony with festivities that lasted almost a week. She was so happy, thinking they were going to live happily ever after…..
Not long after the wedding, Anita’s brother left for India to start a business there and took their mother with him. For the first time, Anita was living in a different country than the rest of her family, which devastated her. Also, during this time, those in her culture were constantly reminding her she should be having children as it was expected right after marriage. This, of course, she did not want, and again felt inadequate in the eyes of the people of her culture.
Fear and Confirmation of Disease
In 2001, her best friend, Soni, was diagnosed with cancer. A few months later, they found out Danny’s sister’s husband had an aggressive form of cancer. The news of these two having cancer instilled a deep fear in her as they were very close to her age. She soon began to fear being around anything that might cause cancer. As this fear progressed, she began to fear life itself.
In April, 2002, Anita found a lump in her right shoulder. She went in for tests and was told she had lymphoma, and terror took over from there. She refused chemotherapy because she saw how it ravaged her friends’ bodies.
Disease and Death of Loved Ones
It wasn’t long after that, Anita lost her best friend to cancer, and shortly later, her brother-in-law. She ran through the gamut of emotions, every day, day and night – anger, fear, dread, frustration, desperation.
Searching for a Healing Venue
She was seeing several specialists, along with Eastern healers. She was trying hypnotherapy, meditation, prayers, mantras and Chinese herbal remedies to no avail. She continued tp deteriorate. She traveled to India for Ayurvedic treatment, and, for awhile, felt much better. But as soon as she returned and listened to the skepticism of her friends regarding her treatments, the cancer came back with a vengeance.
She became stressed about food, one healing modality stated meat was bad, another stated meat was good, dairy was bad. Yet another stated vegetables were wrong. She worried about karma and what she must have done to deserve what was happening. She lived in a constant state of fear and continued to deteriorate in unbelievable pain.
Near Death Experience
On the morning of February 2, 2006, Anita was rushed to the hospital close to death and fell into a coma. Doctors and nurses were rushing around trying to keep her from dying. The Oncologist had already told Danny though, that although her heart may be beating, she was gone.
It was at this time, Anita realized she was fully conscious and aware of what was going on around her, and even down the hall where one of the doctors was talking to Danny. All the pain she had endured was gone. She realized she was witnessing this from outside her physical body.
Her near death experience is more than I can describe here, unless I want to write a book myself. When she returned from this and woke from her coma, her cancer went into remission and soon disappeared. She has now written a book of her experience and is speaking at conferences, lectures and meetings about her experience.
Dying To Be Me
Anita Moorjani’s experience is a fantastic example of mind-body, maybe soul-body healing. After reading of her experience, I have no doubt we can all experience healing of illness and disease when we have a positive mind and heart and lose fear. Her book goes into so much better detail than I can give here in this short post. You will find my book review posted under Book and Movie Reviews.