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Change Your Beliefs to Create an Abundant Life


“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha

Your mind not only controls all of the systems of the body, it also controls your thoughts and feelings. These thoughts and feelings come from the beliefs you hold in your unconscious.

How Your Beliefs are Formed

Your beliefs are the truths you feel about yourself and your life, and began forming when you were an infant, watching the actions of those you held as authority figures and in whom you trusted and learned from – parents, teachers, religions, musicians, peers, advertisements, etc.

mind-beliefs

mind-beliefs

As a child, your mind was a sponge, absorbing all you saw and heard from authority figures. Although your parents may have done the best they could in raising you correctly, they could only pass on the beliefs they had as parents, many of them based on fear. “Don’t expect too much out of life, you’ll only be disappointed”, “Rich people are greedy and selfish”, “You have to work hard all your life if you want to save/earn/have money”, “Money is at the root of all evil”, “You must be beautiful to be popular”.

For those children whose parents did not try to do their best, or thought negative reinforcement would help them in the world, beliefs were even rougher… “You’re not good enough”, “You’ll never amount to anything”, “You’ll always be (fill in the negative word)”.

As your unconscious mind absorbed the lessons from the words and actions of these authority figures, your brain forged neural pathways in which these beliefs were then held.

Freud said, “We learn as children how we react emotionally and this is carried into adulthood.

The Mind

mind

mind

There are three parts of the mind, the conscious, the subconscious and the unconscious.

Conscious mind – This is the part of your mind that is aware of what is currently happening around and to you, along with some specific mental functions.

Subconscious mind – Also called the pre-conscious mind. This holds the available memories and information you can become aware of once your direct your attention to it, i.e., how to get home from where you are, phone numbers you frequently use.

Unconscious mind – This consists of the primitive, instinctual wishes as well as the information that we cannot access. During our childhood, we acquired countless memories and experiences that formed our beliefs and who we are today. However, we cannot recall most of those memories.

Your Beliefs Affect Your Abundance

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Every decision you make in your conscious mind has already been affected by your unconscious. If you have self-limiting beliefs regarding a decision, it matters not what you decide, the outcome will not have the positive affect you may desire. Your repressed, unconscious mind will do anything to give you exactly the experience of your limiting belief!

Limiting belief

Limiting belief

If you have negative beliefs about money, your life experiences will match those beliefs. If your beliefs tell you that you do not deserve a happy, loving relationship, you’ll be more prone to find partners with whom you cannot find happiness. If you want a healthy body and lifestyle, but your limiting beliefs are that you are sickly, that is the experience of life you will most likely have.

Your unconscious will protect, censor and dictate your life, so that it becomes a perfect match to your internal, true beliefs and sabotage your desires and actions toward abundance.

Through your actions or behavior, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of doing, being or having the best, you eventually find yourself settling for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live an abundant life. If your belief is that you are you a “victim of circumstance”, that is how you will live out your life and never become a master of your destiny.

You are the creator of your life and are orchestrating everything that happens to you by your core beliefs and ideas about life.  Change your beliefs and expectations, you will change your life.

My next post will be on ways to permanently change your self-limiting beliefs. Do you have ideas and suggestions on how to do that?

Thank you for reading!  Until next time…To your abundance!

Margot

Procrastination and Fear When Writing of Success as an Abundant Woman


“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” – Abraham Lincoln

I would like to say that I used to be, but know I still feel at times I am, the Queen of Procrastination when writing for success, and I can’t say I’ve completely hung up the crown quite yet.

What is Procrastination?

Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time, sometimes to the “last minute” before a deadline. Oh man, am I good at that!

Why Do People Procrastinate?

Why do people procrastinate? Laziness is not the main reason people procrastinate. I believe in my case, with this blog, it all has to do with self confidence. For many years, I was put down and ridiculed because of my size and my non-mainstream thoughts, feelings and beliefs.

Now or Later

Now or Later

As I grew older, I was told by teachers and professors that I was creative with some unique ideas and an ability to write with flair. Somehow the latter seemed to go in one ear and out the other. I suppose that is because the ridicule came first and lasted the longest, having lived with it for many years.

So the procrastination concerning writing is not because I do not enjoy writing and sharing thoughts and beliefs, but because of feeling the old fears of ridicule, rejection and failure.

Fears of Ridicule and Rejection

The most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of ridicule, rejection and failure. People fear ridicule, rejection and criticism of any kind. These fears can hold us back throughout our lives if we let them.

What Do You Do To Deal With Procrastination?

What Shonda Rhimes has said, with a few extra thoughts of my own interspersed…..Open your eyes, take a good look around you. Look at your life. How’s the view? Do you like what you see? Have you been missing out on everything in your life? Do you keep putting off what you could accomplish and share with the world?

procrastinating cat

procrastinating cat

Think back to when you were little. Are you living the life you pictured for yourself, or are you thinking of something even bigger? Do you wish it was something bigger? If it’s not working, quit whining to yourself about what it could be. Shut up and fix it! Open up your heart and mind, share it with the world! What you have to say is important. There is nothing more important for you than to become really good at the art and science of expressing yourself in words to other people. Make a difference!

The Law of Reversibility says that “if you feel a certain way, you will act in a manner consistent with that feeling.” However, if you act in a way that is consistent with that feeling, even if you don’t feel it, the Law of Reversibility will create the feeling that is consistent with your actions.
In the social sciences it’s said that it takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit. That’s true for the most part, especially if you are trying to create that habit through a rigid structure of logical self discipline. There are other ways which utilize the power of the subconscious so it starts working for you and your goals, which in my case is confidence and courage.

Creative Visualization To See Yourself as Unafraid

Creative visualization is a technique in which you use your imagination to create what you want in your life. With creative visualization, you use your imagination to create a clear image, idea, or feeling of what it is you wish to manifest. You continue to focus on the image, idea or feeling regularly, giving it positive energy until it becomes objective reality … in other words, until you actually achieve what you have been imagining. By visualizing yourself acting, speaking and writing with confidence and competence in an area where you are fearful, your visual image will eventually be accepted by your subconscious mind. The way you see yourself and think about yourself, is eventually altered by visualizing these positive mental pictures.

Lisa Nichols is the CEO of Motivating the Masses, one of the top training and development companies in the world, a best-selling author of 6 books and one of the most sought-after transformational speakers whose global platform has reached and served millions. Ms. Nichols’ amazing story of transforming her own life from a struggling single mom on public assistance from South Central Los Angeles to a millionaire Entrepreneur is the inspiration behind her bold mission to teach others that it is possible to do the same. On Wednesday evenings at 6pm PST, you can join an online session with Lisa Nichols. Learn how to reprogram your subconscious beliefs with the latest cutting-edge science, so you remove one of the deepest-rooted barriers to your success.

 

Hypnotism for Dealing with Fear & Procrastination

Hypnosis is used to utilize a person’s subconscious to enable them to create new habits or behaviors and change their perspective on life. If you internalize a new view of yourself, you automatically change your behavior to line up with this new perspective.

How you view yourself is largely an automatic process controlled by the subconscious. If you can change that, then creating new habits becomes much easier for you.

Your conscious mind doesn’t like change and will want to talk you out of changing. If you can get those suggestions into your subconscious mind without the judgements of the conscious mind, you can change from being a procrastinator to being a successful achiever.

Hypnosis is stronger than willpower because it put the suggestions straight into your subconscious. By the time your conscious mind is aware of the suggestions, they will have been accepted by your subconscious already, so the judgmental self talk by the conscious mind will not be an issue.

Hypnosis is an effective and lasting way to overcome procrastination. If you are unable to go to a hypnotist, Dr. Steven G. Jones has some excellent audios for self hypnosis. His self hypnosis audio to alleviate procrastination can be found here.