Monthly Archives: August 2014

Journaling to Overcome Self Limiting Beliefs

Identifying Self Limiting Beliefs

In my previous post “Sabotage of the Subconscious Mind of an Abundant Woman”, I discussed some of the self limiting beliefs we have all accumulated throughout our lives… I’m inadequate, I’m worthless, I’m defective, I’m unattractive, I’m a loser, I’m a failure.  And those are but a few that we have become buried in our psyches.  The trick is to really pay attention to your thoughts and feelings throughout your day.

Limiting beliefs are very powerful. You’ve had them, thought them, felt them for years.  From the time you first experience life, you are inundated with the self limiting beliefs of your parents, grandparents, extended family and friends, your culture and religion.  The more you think of them, the more  energy you give them. The more energy you give them, the more they hold you back from having the abundant, joyful life you deserve.

Your beliefs become your reality.  You will always find evidence to support your beliefs, and to have them become your reality.Your feelings are the perfect tool for identifying these self limiting beliefs you may not even realize you have.  You need to be sure to check in with yourself, ask yourself what you are feeling and why.  Don’t fight the feelings, but observe them.  Any negative feelings you are having lead back to self limiting beliefs.

Understanding Limiting Beliefs

Following is a short list of what self limiting beliefs consist of.  What others can you think of

  • Excuses
  • Justifications
  • Worries
  • Beliefs conditioned from religion, culture or family
  • Negative thought patterns
  • Perfectionist thinking
  • Past failures
  • Fears

Journaling Can Help

Journaling

Journaling

Journaling is a very good habit to start.  It’s a great way to get inside your own head, to write down the thoughts and feelings you have.  Start with a goal, a dream or desire.  Write down everything that comes to you,  whether positive or negative.

Be brutally honest with yourself.  Once you have written until you can write no more, go back and find the negative thoughts and feelings.  Pay attention to any patterns you may see.

Overcoming Self Limiting Beliefs

  • Don’t allow yourself to be defined by these beliefs
  • Choose to stop agreeing with the limiting beliefs
  • Question all of the conclusions you have about what you think to be true
  • Take some kind of action to test your assumptions
  • Spend time integrating a new, empowering belief

Sometimes, it can be just that simple.  The biggest hurdle of all will be remembering what you’ve been allowing yourself to believe all these years, and maintaining the new beliefs you wish to put into place.  When you finally realize you have ingrained these positive and empowering beliefs into your daily life, you will begin noticing all the abundant aspects that have been there all along, waiting for you to acknowledge. How many self limiting beliefs have you been holding onto all these years?

Living Abundantly by Giving Abundantly

Far too many people pursuing a life of abundance through the Law of Attraction are doing so for purely selfish reasons.  I will be the first to admit, I began this journey with the LOA largely because of what I could get out of it.  Although I have always wanted to be able to help others, I sought a life of abundance to fill a void. My largest concern was how to make my life more comfortable; mainly, so I could find more enjoyment and fulfillment relationally and materialistically.  I didn’t completely ignore the spiritual aspects of it all, but it was not anywhere near the top of my list.

As I began this new journey though, I was forced to look inward to find the true source of discontent. That’s when I realized the times I was happiest and most fulfilled were the times I knew I had helped others in pursuing their lives of fulfillment. This is not the type of help in which one loses themselves and their sense of self in the process, but of giving that of which they have an abundance. In return, even more abundance is returned.

Giving of Yourself Abundantly

Giving abundantly can take many forms, from the smallest gesture to the largest commitment.  Giving of yourself and what you have brings a glow to your heart.

Glowing Heart

Glowing Heart

Did you smile and thank the cashier and bagger at the grocery?  Did you allow the car in the next lane to merge in front of you?   When was the last time you visited a retirement home, or have you ever?  Have you considered donating time to Meals on Wheels?  If you belong to a church, are you active in their charitable events?  Do you donate clothes or furniture, or do you find it easier to set it all out with the trash pick-up?

I do not have the ability to drive anywhere at any time, but I found I could give my support through an online prayer group.  Even though I am not a religious person, it matters not.  I believe there is a higher power.  Call it God, The Divine, The Universe…prayers, thoughts and intentions are sent, received and answered. There are over 100,000 members in this prayer group.  Can you imagine the effect those prayers have?  Reading some of the messages of thanks brings tears to my eyes.

It Doesn’t Take Much Money to Make a Difference

When I began donating, I couldn’t afford much.  I found that with a few dollars, I could put a Thanksgiving dinner on a family’s table.  I could help feed the homeless that went to a church or shelter for a hot meal on a cold night.

Have you donated money to any charities – international, national or local?  Do you drop your extra change in the Salvation Army bucket during the holidays?  Do you buy those little flags from the AmVets table when it is set up outside the grocery store?  How about supporting the Red Cross when disaster strikes…or before is even better.   There are SO many legitimate charities, from local to international.  Chose one or two, if that’s all you can afford, more if you can do so.  Your heart will truly glow, knowing you are doing what you can to help those less fortunate than you.

Any sort of giving is the perfect way to make you more grateful for what you have.  It will truly make you feel abundant.  And, when giving unconditionally starts to bring more abundance into your life as a way of thanking you, share more.  The cycle has begun, and you will surely be a better, more abundant woman for the giving of yourself and what you have to share.

What have you shared, contributed or donated lately?  Didn’t it make you feel wonderful about doing so?  Share you stories. I would love to read them.

Margot

Sabotage of the Subconscious Mind of an Abundant Woman

You try, you want, you desire, you meditate…..and yet it seems as if you’re stuck, going nowhere fast.  Could it be your subconscious mind is being sabotaged by thoughts and feelings of which you’re not even aware? The subconscious mind has accumulated years of habitual programming that goes on without you even consciously thinking about it.  Memories of negative experiences program you  to identify with negative “self beliefs” such as I’m inadequate, I’m worthless, I’m defective, I’m unattractive, I’m a loser, I’m a failure.  Those types of negative beliefs behave like “set points” that trigger automatic self destructive actions and thoughts that inevitably become self-fulfilling prophecies.  So, we’ve been told that if we practice positive affirmations,  we will attract positive results through the law of attraction.  Although, this is correct, if our affirmations are only rattling around in our conscious minds, what does that say of what is happening in the subconscious?  Your subconscious mind may be limiting and sabotaging you in ways that you do not even realize.

How Can You Overcome Sabotage of the Subconscious Mind?

Tension

Tension

Through practices such as meditation, yoga, or hypnosis, you will learn to develop mindfulness and an ability to live  your life consciously.  With these practices, you will  learn to observe events happening in your life consciously instead of them happening “to” you without your awareness.  You will begin to act consciously,  instead of reacting unconsciously. What you used to automatically respond to without thought, you’ll begin to notice as a negative or positive trigger of response.  Those negative triggers can then be dealt with, and old responses can be transformed into new thoughts and ideas. Those limiting beliefs can be transformed into new, positive ideals, which can then be incorporated into your meditations or self-hypnosis (which will be covered in another post).  The positive affirmations which were originally only found in the conscious mind can now be transformed into new and positive subconscious thoughts and feelings.

Remember to always keep your thoughts and feelings in your awareness and abolish anything negative that creeps in before it becomes something that encourages any sort if sabotage of your subconscious mind.