Beginning Again!

Hi! I'm Margot!

Hi! I’m Margot!

In June of 2014, I joined a very interesting and knowledgeable group of people called Wealthy Affiliates. The group is made of people wanting to learn about making a profit on the internet. The lessons on the site were thorough and insightful. I learned how to build and publish a website on the internet! I did so and kept up with posting thoughts and ideas for a few months. Life, somehow, got in the way and I found myself so busy and distracted with other things, I lost my way and failed to continue the blog.

This past week, I’ve spent some time considering my life and what I thought was important. Spending the time researching my interests and recording my thoughts on them in a blog on my website IS important to me. Some people may think my blogs just a lot of rambling, but I know putting my thoughts down in a blog is cathartic.

I hope my blogs can benefit others and help them consider life and how they may help others live a fruitful life. I plan on beginning again writing thoughts and ideas, and sharing with others through the blogs on my website.

To Your Abundance!


A Tribute to Dr. Wayne Dyer from an Abundant Woman

Dr. Wayne Dyer, born May 10, 1940, was a spiritual and self-help icon. He was the best-selling author of more than 30 self-help and spiritual books, Your Erroneous Zone, a highly motivational speaker and an inspiration for millions of people.

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Dyer spent his childhood (until the age of 10) in an orphanage, then was taken into a foster home, where he was raised and loved. One day as a child, Wayne Dyer returned home from school, upset because he overheard his teacher calling him a “scurvy elephant.” When he shared this concern with his foster mother, she called the teacher who said, “Oh, that Wayne! He’s always getting things wrong. I didn’t call him a scurvy elephant. I said he was a disturbing element!

He went on to serve in the Navy for 4 years (1958-1962), then graduated from Wayne State University with a degree in counseling.

He began his career as a high school guidance counselor there and as a professor of counselor education at St. Johns University in New York City. His lectures focused on motivational speaking and positive thinking. The theories he discussed are what make up the content of his first book, Your Erroneous Zone, which was published in 1976. It is one of the best-selling books of all time, with approximately 35 million copies sold worldwide.

“Truly inspiring leaders get results by their own example: They encourage others to be responsible and do the right thing…they create space for others to be inspired and to achieve their own greatness.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

It is at this time, Dr. Dyer quit teaching and began his career as a motivational speaker and writer. He also helped raise millions of dollars with lectures for PBS.

“There’s no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love. There is only a scarcity of resolve to make it happen.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

The context of Dr. Dyer’s books and lectures reflected the ideals of the New Thought movement, which promotes the belief that spirit is in and of all things, Infinite Intelligence (God) is everywhere, in everything and true human selfhood is divine; that divine thought is the power behind all that is good, and sickness originates in the mind where “wrong thinking” while “right thinking” promotes healing.

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Wayne Dyer

To his followers, Dr. Dyer promoted self-actualization, explaining reliance on the self is a guide to religious experience and advised people to emulate Jesus who he felt was a self-actualized person who relied on self-reliance. Self-actualization is the achievement of one’s full potential through creativity, independence, spontaneity, and a grasp of the real world.

“Self-actualized people are independent of the good opinion of others…Be a scurvy elephant.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

During the 90’s, Dr. Dyer began turning the context of his books and lectures toward spirituality and received an even larger following.

Dr Wayne Dyer

Dr Wayne Dyer

Dr. Dyer passed away August 30, 2015 from a heart attack, at age 75. He had been diagnosed with leukemia in 2009, but always stated he could eliminate it from his body. The coroner confirmed that there was no trace of the leukemia.

He was a true inspiration and will be sorely missed.


Severn Cullin-Suzuki

Severn Cullin-Suzuki

Twenty-three years ago, at the United Nations Conference on Environment and Development in Rio Di Janeiro, a young lady of 12 years named Severn Cullin-Suzuki stood before the delegates and kept them speechless for six minutes. This is what she had to say:

“I am here speaking for ECO, the Environmental Children’s Organization. We are a group of 12 and 13 year olds trying to make a difference. We raised all the money ourselves to come here ourselves, to come 5,000 miles to tell you adults you much change your ways.

Coming up here today, I have no hidden agenda. I am fighting for my future. Losing my future is not like losing an election or a few points on the stock market. I’m here to speak for all generations to come. I am here to speak for all the starving children who’s cries go unheard. I am here to speak for all the animals dying across this planet because they have nowhere left to go.

I am afraid to go out in the sun now because of the holes in our ozone. I am afraid to breathe the air because I don’t know what chemicals are in it. I used to go fishing with my dad in Vancouver until just a few years ago when we found the fish full of cancers. Now we hear of plants and animals going extinct every day, vanishing forever. In my life, I have dreamed of seeing herds of wild animals, jungles and rain forests full of birds and butterflies; but now I wonder if they will even exist for my children to see. Did you have to worry about these things when you were my age?

This is happening right before our eyes, and yet we act as if we have all the time and all the solutions. I’m only a child and I don’t have all the solutions. I want you to realize, neither do you. You don’t know how to fix the holes in our ozone layers. You don’t know how to bring the salmon back up into our dead streams. You don’t know how to bring back an animal, now extinct. And you can’t bring back the forests that once grew where there is now a desert. If you don’t know how to fix it, PLEASE stop breaking it!

Here, you may be delegates of your governments, business people, organizers, reporters or politicians. But really, you are mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles. And all of you are someone’s child. I am only a child, and yet know I am part of a family…5 billion strong; in fact, 30 million species strong. Borders and governments will never change that.

I am only a child, yet I know we are all in this together, and should act as one single world towards one single goal. In my anger I am not blind and in my fear I am not afraid of telling the world how I feel. In my country, we make so much waste. We buy and throw away, buy and throw away; and yet, we northern countries will not share with the needy. Even when we have more than enough, we are afraid to share, we are afraid to let go of some of our wealth. We live a privileged life. We have plenty of food, water and shelter. We have watches, bicycles, computers and television sets. The list could go on for two days.

Here in Brazil, two days ago, we were shocked when we spent some time with children living in the streets. This is what one child told us, “I wish I was rich. And if I was, I would give all the street children food, clothes, medicines, shelter, and love and affection.” If a child on the street, who has nothing, is willing to share, why are we, who have everything still so greedy? I can’t stop thinking that these are children that are my age, that it makes a tremendous difference where you are born. I could be a child living on the streets in Brazil, I could be a starving child living in Somalia, or a victim of war in the middle east, or a beggar in India.

I am only a child, and yet I know if all the money spent on wars was spent on finding environmental answers, ending poverty and finding treaties, what a wonderful place this earth would be. At school, even in Kindergarten, you teach us how to behave in the world. You teach us how to not fight with others, to work things out, to respect others, to clean up our mess, to not hurt other creatures, to share…not be greedy. Then why do you go out and do the things you tell us not to do? Do not forget why you are attending these conferences, who you are doing this for. We are your own children. You are deciding what kind of world we are growing up in.

Parents should be able to comfort their children by saying, “Everything is going to be allright. It’s not the end of the world, and we’re doing the best we can”. But I don’t think you can say that to us anymore. Are we even on your list of priorities? My Dad always says, “You are what you do, not what you say.” Well, what you do makes me cry at night. You grownups say you love us, but I challenge you…please, make your actions reflect your words.”

This child seemed to make such an impression. I could see the reactions on the faces of the delegates. It seemed they were taking it to heart. Twenty-three years ago…..I really thought she made an impression. I was obviously wrong.

Extinction rates are up – it is estimated we could lose up to 15 species this year alone. Deforestation has raped the Amazon of millions of acres of forest and jungle. The population growth, over 8 billion people on this planet now, is also pushing the animals out of their natural habitat.

Global climate change has brought drought to what was historically agriculturally rich areas, bringing famine to even more countries. The food rich countries that could help those that are desperate for assistance, turn their backs on their brothers and sisters. Yes, we are a greedy lot.

As for the economy, with a few exceptions, the rich keep getting richer and the poor keep getting poorer. The whole global economic crisis will surely bankrupt this world if the conglomerates, banks and governments don’t come up with viable plans to help this world as a whole, instead of finding quick fixes to appease the public while hoarding more for themselves.

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On Being An Assertive Abundant Woman

“The only healthy communication style is assertive communication.” ~Jim Rohn

There are many people, especially women, who confuse assertiveness and aggressiveness as one and the same, so they make sure they do not show assertiveness in their daily lives and instead come across as passive.

When you are being assertive, you are respectfully speaking up for yourself and what is important to you clearly and confidently.

Aggressive woman

Aggressive woman

On the other hand, when you are aggressive, you are attempting to exert your influence on another to get what you want in a disrespectful and pushy manner, often detrimental to the other person.

Some women might have been raised to set aside their needs and opinions in order to support and agree with others. Many women are very uncomfortable asserting themselves, thinking that by doing so, they are hurting the feelings of others, or fearing confrontation and rejection of their assertions. Since they don’t express their wants and desires, they end up being virtually invisible because no one knows what they really like or want.

Assertiveness is a skill that takes practice. It may always be easier for you to swallow your feelings, bite your tongue or give them the silent treatment, but assertiveness is a much better strategy. It works because it shows the respect you and others deserve.

Four Types of Assertions

1. Basic assertions are when you simply state your feelings, beliefs or opinions. These are normally ‘I feel’ or ‘I want’ remarks. These shouldn’t be difficult as long as you’re in touch with your needs or your feelings, and they are important enough to you to be voiced.
2. Empathetic assertions are usually in two parts, with the first expressing that you understand where the other person is coming from, followed by an explanation of your thoughts and feelings rights: For example:
‘I know you have been very busy, but I also want to feel our relationship is important to you. I want you to make more time for us.’
3. Escalating assertions are If the other person is not responding appropriately to you basic assertion, you have the right to become more emphatic. It could include some kind of ensueing action. For example:
‘If you don’t return my money, which I clearly stated was a loan, I’ll be taking legal action.’
4. I-Language assertions are three-part statements, and are useful for dealing with negative feelings. They can help you in effectively focusing and clarifying your feelings. It includes:
When you… (whatever it is you do)
The effects are… (explain how it effects you)
I’d prefer you… (explain what you want)

Practice these steps when you are needing to be assertive to get your point across or your wants expressed.

STEP 1: Start with making small requests

First, using a minimum number of words, be clear as to what you want so there is no confusion. Make a few small requests of others. For example, request that you be moved to a different table at a restaurant if you prefer one other than where the wait staff is directing you. Another example would be to ask the cashier for different denominations than you were given when you get change for a purchase.

Once you are comfortable with this, try stronger requests from co-workers, family and friends. Request assistance with chores you normally do yourself.

When at work, make requests of co-workers you would normally handle yourself.

Whenever possible, avoid using if, but, perhaps or maybe.

You’ll soon find you feel more confident and are able to voice your requests easily.

STEP 2: Learn to say “no”

The biggest reason people are afraid to say “no” is fear – fear of rejection, seeming selfish or hurting the feelings of the other person. Can you remember times that you wanted to say “no”, but didn’t have the confidence or courage?

Say No

Say No

Having the ability to say “no” clearly and confidently is a sure sign of a mentally healthy human being who is able to set boundaries.

It’s okay to say “no”! In fact, it is very important for your own mental health.

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” – Warren Buffett

STEP 3: Quit feeling guilty

Do you cringe if you ask the waiter to take food back to the kitchen at a restaurant because it was cold or undercooked? You paid money for this food that is not prepared to your satisfaction. You can kindly ask the server to take it back to be prepared as you wish.

If you have to turn down a friend’s request for a ride to the airport or train depot when your schedule makes it impossible to do so, do you feel guilty?

Possibly, you were taught that putting others before yourself is the right thing to do and makes you a bad person if you didn’t.

Using up your own time, effort and energy for others all the time does not make you a spiritually enlightened person. You can end up doing harm to yourself physically, emotionally and even financially. Taking care of yourself and your needs first instead of putting the needs of everyone else makes it possible for you to give your best to others when really needed. Sometimes that means saying “no”.

What Else Can You Do?

If you have issues expressing yourself in a manner that is far from being assertive, there are so many resources online that can help you learn to do so. A couple of books worth reading are

“The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships” by Randy J. Paterson

“When I Say No, I Feel Guilty” by Manuel J Smith

So, take some time this week to speak up for yourself and what you want. You are worth it and that’s important!

“We must teach our girls that if they speak their mind, they can create the world they want to see.”
Robyn Silverman

Thanks for reading! Please share your thoughts and ideas in the comments section below.

To your abundance!



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Three Possible Ways To Change Beliefs As An Abundant Woman

The brain, in which the conscious mind is included, is that three-pound organ in your head. The complete mind, which also includes your subconscious and unconscious, is much larger and more elusive. There is a vast difference between brain and mind and there are books that go into intricate detail on what these differences entail.

Until you find some way to alter the deep seated and self-limiting beliefs, most of which you’re not even aware, all of the personal development programs you try will fail, as they are based on dealing on the conscious and subconscious levels. The negative beliefs in your unconscious mind sets limits for you. When you rid yourself of these limits, you can do things you thought impossible.

What Are Your Self-Limiting Beliefs?

In order to change these self-limiting beliefs, you must first become aware of them. They are constantly affecting your life as you go through your days.

Limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs

As I’ve stated before, change does not occur on the conscious, superficial levels, through simple positive thinking. It involves searching, discovering, and changing our deepest thoughts and feelings toward life.

It takes practice and determination, but you must become aware of your thoughts and feelings throughout your day. Make note of your emotions and how you are feeling about specific situations in your life that you wish to change. Your emotions and feelings will give you the indication of your deep seated beliefs.

Can You Change Beliefs with Positive Affirmations?

The definition for affirm is to say that something is true in a confident way. Many people hope that by repeating positive affirmations to themselves in the mirror and reading them from post-it notes stuck around the house, they will make the changes that they so deeply desire occur.

Although daily positive affirmations might be helpful in making you feel good and raising your self esteem on a short term basis, they are usually much further away from your true belief system, so it is virtually impossible to make the permanent, positive changes needed in your beliefs. With each positive declaration that is different than your true belief, what you are trying to affirm is incompatible with a deeply held negative belief and your unconscious will dismiss this as just not true.

Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations target the conscious and subconscious levels of your mind, but not the unconscious mind where beliefs are forged. So, if you are using a positive affirmation to change a negative belief, the unconscious will fight for survival and what you really desire will most likely fail to manifest. However, there are many people and websites who disagree.

If you use positive affirmations, I suggest you use them for quite a long time as soon as you wake and right before you sleep as your mind is more open to suggestions at these times. and as often as possible throughout each and day.

Changing Beliefs with Hypnosis

What you focus on influences your beliefs which influences your habits which, in turn, influences your reality. Your reality is also subjective and influenced by what you choose to see in the world. If you were told to make a list daily of the things that made you unhappy, depressed and terrible for a year, at the end of the year, you would say the quality of your life is terrible because all you’ve been focusing on is the terrible, have begun to believe in the terrible and your reality will manifest in the same way.

Your beliefs and habits become so deeply ingrained, it seems almost impossible to change them, but have no doubt, they can change. Hypnosis can help you change your focus, your beliefs, your habits and your realities. Hypnosis can help you change your reality into any form you wish to see.

Hypnosis can put your mind into an altered state of consciousness. You’re not awake, nor are you asleep. The two parts of the mind that are active during hypnosis are the parts that control intense concentration (focus) and intense relaxation, the subconscious and unconscious.



Hypnosis helps your mind become open, suggestible and adjustable. Small simple changes made in your unconscious during hypnosis can begin to make very large changes in your reality. The quality of your life is determined by how well you control your own thoughts. Any negative belief or thought you have can be changed using the power of your mind through hypnosis.

If you are unable to find a local reputable hypnotist, recorded sessions are available online and can be just as helpful. I personally have used this organization for these and become an affiliate because of my belief in their ability to help in many ways. Dr. Steven G. Jones is a world renowned hypnotherapist with over 22 years of success.

Change Beliefs with Creative Visualization

“Creative visualization is the technique of using your imagination to create what you want and expect in your life. You are already using it every day, every minute in fact. It is your natural power of imagination, the basic creative energy of the universe, which you use constantly,  whether or not you are aware of it.” Shakti Gawain

Shakti Gawain wrote her first book on creative visualization back in 1978 entitled “Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life.  “There have since been revised and updated versions of this inspirational best seller.

Creative visualization incorporates the use of the imagination with affirmations. As the imagination gives access to the unconscious, the affirmations have a much greater impact for change than using them alone.

Creative Visualization

Creative Visualization

As you become familiar with using creative visualization and begin to trust the results you are experiencing, you will be able to make it an integral part of your consciousness. It becomes a state of consciousness, a continuous awareness in which you are always aware that you are the creator of your life.

Lisa Nichols has an innovative and very effective program on creative visualization and is currently traveling around the world giving very successful and enlightening workshops and seminars. For those who cannot attend her workshops to learn the best ways of practicing creative visualization, she is now offering her Creative Visualization program online or with a cd set. You can find information on that here. I am so impressed with this program, I have become an affiliate for this program.

“You are the designer of your destiny. You are the author of your story”. Lisa Nichols

Change Your Beliefs to Create an Abundant Life

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha

Your mind not only controls all of the systems of the body, it also controls your thoughts and feelings. These thoughts and feelings come from the beliefs you hold in your unconscious.

How Your Beliefs are Formed

Your beliefs are the truths you feel about yourself and your life, and began forming when you were an infant, watching the actions of those you held as authority figures and in whom you trusted and learned from – parents, teachers, religions, musicians, peers, advertisements, etc.



As a child, your mind was a sponge, absorbing all you saw and heard from authority figures. Although your parents may have done the best they could in raising you correctly, they could only pass on the beliefs they had as parents, many of them based on fear. “Don’t expect too much out of life, you’ll only be disappointed”, “Rich people are greedy and selfish”, “You have to work hard all your life if you want to save/earn/have money”, “Money is at the root of all evil”, “You must be beautiful to be popular”.

For those children whose parents did not try to do their best, or thought negative reinforcement would help them in the world, beliefs were even rougher… “You’re not good enough”, “You’ll never amount to anything”, “You’ll always be (fill in the negative word)”.

As your unconscious mind absorbed the lessons from the words and actions of these authority figures, your brain forged neural pathways in which these beliefs were then held.

Freud said, “We learn as children how we react emotionally and this is carried into adulthood.

The Mind



There are three parts of the mind, the conscious, the subconscious and the unconscious.

Conscious mind – This is the part of your mind that is aware of what is currently happening around and to you, along with some specific mental functions.

Subconscious mind – Also called the pre-conscious mind. This holds the available memories and information you can become aware of once your direct your attention to it, i.e., how to get home from where you are, phone numbers you frequently use.

Unconscious mind – This consists of the primitive, instinctual wishes as well as the information that we cannot access. During our childhood, we acquired countless memories and experiences that formed our beliefs and who we are today. However, we cannot recall most of those memories.

Your Beliefs Affect Your Abundance

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Every decision you make in your conscious mind has already been affected by your unconscious. If you have self-limiting beliefs regarding a decision, it matters not what you decide, the outcome will not have the positive affect you may desire. Your repressed, unconscious mind will do anything to give you exactly the experience of your limiting belief!

Limiting belief

Limiting belief

If you have negative beliefs about money, your life experiences will match those beliefs. If your beliefs tell you that you do not deserve a happy, loving relationship, you’ll be more prone to find partners with whom you cannot find happiness. If you want a healthy body and lifestyle, but your limiting beliefs are that you are sickly, that is the experience of life you will most likely have.

Your unconscious will protect, censor and dictate your life, so that it becomes a perfect match to your internal, true beliefs and sabotage your desires and actions toward abundance.

Through your actions or behavior, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of doing, being or having the best, you eventually find yourself settling for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live an abundant life. If your belief is that you are you a “victim of circumstance”, that is how you will live out your life and never become a master of your destiny.

You are the creator of your life and are orchestrating everything that happens to you by your core beliefs and ideas about life.  Change your beliefs and expectations, you will change your life.

My next post will be on ways to permanently change your self-limiting beliefs. Do you have ideas and suggestions on how to do that?

Thank you for reading!  Until next time…To your abundance!


Procrastination and Fear When Writing of Success as an Abundant Woman

“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” – Abraham Lincoln

I would like to say that I used to be, but know I still feel at times I am, the Queen of Procrastination when writing for success, and I can’t say I’ve completely hung up the crown quite yet.

What is Procrastination?

Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time, sometimes to the “last minute” before a deadline. Oh man, am I good at that!

Why Do People Procrastinate?

Why do people procrastinate? Laziness is not the main reason people procrastinate. I believe in my case, with this blog, it all has to do with self confidence. For many years, I was put down and ridiculed because of my size and my non-mainstream thoughts, feelings and beliefs.

Now or Later

Now or Later

As I grew older, I was told by teachers and professors that I was creative with some unique ideas and an ability to write with flair. Somehow the latter seemed to go in one ear and out the other. I suppose that is because the ridicule came first and lasted the longest, having lived with it for many years.

So the procrastination concerning writing is not because I do not enjoy writing and sharing thoughts and beliefs, but because of feeling the old fears of ridicule, rejection and failure.

Fears of Ridicule and Rejection

The most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of ridicule, rejection and failure. People fear ridicule, rejection and criticism of any kind. These fears can hold us back throughout our lives if we let them.

What Do You Do To Deal With Procrastination?

What Shonda Rhimes has said, with a few extra thoughts of my own interspersed…..Open your eyes, take a good look around you. Look at your life. How’s the view? Do you like what you see? Have you been missing out on everything in your life? Do you keep putting off what you could accomplish and share with the world?

procrastinating cat

procrastinating cat

Think back to when you were little. Are you living the life you pictured for yourself, or are you thinking of something even bigger? Do you wish it was something bigger? If it’s not working, quit whining to yourself about what it could be. Shut up and fix it! Open up your heart and mind, share it with the world! What you have to say is important. There is nothing more important for you than to become really good at the art and science of expressing yourself in words to other people. Make a difference!

The Law of Reversibility says that “if you feel a certain way, you will act in a manner consistent with that feeling.” However, if you act in a way that is consistent with that feeling, even if you don’t feel it, the Law of Reversibility will create the feeling that is consistent with your actions.
In the social sciences it’s said that it takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit. That’s true for the most part, especially if you are trying to create that habit through a rigid structure of logical self discipline. There are other ways which utilize the power of the subconscious so it starts working for you and your goals, which in my case is confidence and courage.

Creative Visualization To See Yourself as Unafraid

Creative visualization is a technique in which you use your imagination to create what you want in your life. With creative visualization, you use your imagination to create a clear image, idea, or feeling of what it is you wish to manifest. You continue to focus on the image, idea or feeling regularly, giving it positive energy until it becomes objective reality … in other words, until you actually achieve what you have been imagining. By visualizing yourself acting, speaking and writing with confidence and competence in an area where you are fearful, your visual image will eventually be accepted by your subconscious mind. The way you see yourself and think about yourself, is eventually altered by visualizing these positive mental pictures.

Lisa Nichols is the CEO of Motivating the Masses, one of the top training and development companies in the world, a best-selling author of 6 books and one of the most sought-after transformational speakers whose global platform has reached and served millions. Ms. Nichols’ amazing story of transforming her own life from a struggling single mom on public assistance from South Central Los Angeles to a millionaire Entrepreneur is the inspiration behind her bold mission to teach others that it is possible to do the same. On Wednesday evenings at 6pm PST, you can join an online session with Lisa Nichols. Learn how to reprogram your subconscious beliefs with the latest cutting-edge science, so you remove one of the deepest-rooted barriers to your success.


Hypnotism for Dealing with Fear & Procrastination

Hypnosis is used to utilize a person’s subconscious to enable them to create new habits or behaviors and change their perspective on life. If you internalize a new view of yourself, you automatically change your behavior to line up with this new perspective.

How you view yourself is largely an automatic process controlled by the subconscious. If you can change that, then creating new habits becomes much easier for you.

Your conscious mind doesn’t like change and will want to talk you out of changing. If you can get those suggestions into your subconscious mind without the judgements of the conscious mind, you can change from being a procrastinator to being a successful achiever.

Hypnosis is stronger than willpower because it put the suggestions straight into your subconscious. By the time your conscious mind is aware of the suggestions, they will have been accepted by your subconscious already, so the judgmental self talk by the conscious mind will not be an issue.

Hypnosis is an effective and lasting way to overcome procrastination. If you are unable to go to a hypnotist, Dr. Steven G. Jones has some excellent audios for self hypnosis. His self hypnosis audio to alleviate procrastination can be found here.


Using Hypnosis for Abundant Health

Hypnosis is a state of consciousness involving focused attention and reduced external awareness having an enhanced capacity for response to suggestion, as explained in Wikipedia.

During hypnosis, a person is said to have heightened focus and concentration. The person can concentrate intensely on a specific thought or memory, while blocking out sources of distraction. Hypnotized subjects are said to show an increased response to suggestions.

A hypnotized person displays certain propensities, most notably heightened suggestibility and responsiveness. It is because of this this heightened state of mind that you can use hypnosis to make changes to your self beliefs, and patterns of thinking safely and naturally. After experiencing hypnosis, some people are able to induce hypnosis on themselves.
Psychologist, John Kilstrom (2001) states “The hypnotist does not hypnotize the individual. Rather the hypnotist serves as a sort of coach or tutor whose job is to help the person become hypnotized.”



Changes In Senses & Perception

Hypnosis works by relaxing you into a state where your brain shifts its activity. On a brain scan, a person in hypnosis shows the brainwave activity as experienced in the early years of our lives when our minds were able to sponge up information and immediately integrate it. This same accelerated learning occurs in hypnosis, bypassing the conscious mind so that unconscious beliefs and perceptions change.
Some of the most dramatic effects that can be seen with hypnosis are changes in sensation and perception. Some of the sensory changes include temporary blindness, deafness or loss of feeling in a part of the body. The changes in feeling can be very helpful for people who need anesthesia for surgical procedures or for chronic pain.

Studies on hypnosis have shown that a hypnotized person being told pain cannot be felt, will not consciously experience the pain of a pinprick or having the arm immersed in ice water.
When it comes to perceptions, a hypnotized person can be told a good friend is sitting across the room, and this person will not only see this friend but can give vivid detail of the friend and even touch this friend. The opposite can be experienced also. If told something with a foul odor does not smell, the hypnotized person will not consciously perceive any odor.

Limits of Hypnosis

Although effects of true hypnosis can be very dramatic, there are limits to the behaviors influenced by hypnosis.

1. You cannot be hypnotized against your will.
2. You will not behave in manners contrary to your moral and ethical values.
3. Hypnosis cannot make you stronger or give you new talents.



Healing the Body with Hypnosis

The body is designed to heal itself. Although this is an automatic process, hypnotic techniques can enhance and accelerate this process. By directing the subconscious mind to focus energy on a specific system in the body, more natural healing resources will go there. As an example, if you used hypnosis to help the healing of an injury or burn, you could accelerate the process so the healing happens in half the time it would take for the normal, unassisted healing to occur.

According to Dr. Steven Gurgevich, along with other doctors, the medical use of hypnosis can benefit asthma, back pain, brain injury, burns, cancer, childbirth, erectile function, eyesight, fertility, fibroid healing, headache, hypertension, immune system, irritable bowel syndrome, liver conditions, migraines, multiple sclerosis, neck conditions, pain, pregnancy, side effects of chemo or radiation treatment, skin conditions, spinal cord injuries, stimulating hair growth, strokes, surgery and recovery, tinnitus,and ulcers, just to list a few of the medical benefits.

There are also the benefits of changing behavioral patterns, which will promote a longer, healthy lifestyle – addictions, anxiety, depression, insomnia, smoking cessation, stress, weight loss.

Who Should You See?

You want to be sure to consult a licensed clinician. A couple of reputable groups are The American Society of Clinicao Hypnosis ( and The Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis ( The can supply you with information of health care professionals in your area. Although still in the beginning stages, some insurance companies are covering hypnosis to treat am assortment of disorders.

For those unable to visit a hypnotist, there are also reputable hypnotherapists who provide recordings that can be used to hypnotize and help with the healing process. The ones I have used and found very helpful are Dr. Steve G. Jones and Natural Hypnosis. Because of the healing benefits I have received with headaches, skin and pain from using recordings made by these two sites, I have become an affiliate.  I will make a commission if you should choose to purchase any products.  They do offer some free hypnosis sessions, should you wish to try them out first. They both have exceptional and reliable recorded sessions that can help with healing.

I would love to hear of your experiences with healing through hypnosis.

To your abundance!


Studies and Research on the Mind-Body Connection for Healing

Hippocrates once wrote, “The natural healing force within each one of us is the greatest force in getting well.”



The ancient Greeks used the mind-body connection for healing on a regular basis as a normal way of healing, and it was considered an important aspect in the health of an individual. This was put to the wayside when modern medicine made its appearance.

This ideal has just recently started to be taken seriously again, and is being proven in studies and research. The following visualization therapy information was supplied by The Silva Life System of which I am an affiliate because of their outstanding research, programs and reputation.

The Visualization Therapy

There was a 61 year old man diagnosed with a terminal case of throat cancer with his weight dropping to under 100 lbs. He could hardly swallow or breathe. His survival rate was at 5%. Doctors didn’t want to put him on radiation therapy as they wondered if he could survive the treatment.



After giving considerable consideration, the doctors decided to try the radiation therapy. Dr. O. Carl Simmonton, Medical Director of the Cancer Counseling and Research Center in Dallas, Tx was asked to be involved in the patient’s treatment.

Dr. Simonton told the patient he had the ability to control the progress of his disease and gave him a few relaxation and creative visualization techniques.

The patient was to visualize:

  • The radiation was pinpoints of energy bombarding the cancer cells
  • The cancer cells would be unable to repair the damage they suffered
  • His white blood cells would overcome the cancerous cells
  • The cancer cells would flush out of his body through his kidneys and liver

Results: The Patient experienced almost no ill side effects from the treatment. He regained his weight and the cancer was gone.

The Simonton Center (www.simontoncenter,com) has helped thousands of cancer patients benefit from imagery therapy. Dr. Simonton’s wife said “Probably the single most important tool we have is the mental imagery technique developed by the Silva Life System”.

The Placebo and Psychosomatic Effects

The placebo effect has been known about for years. Doctors know a patient can manifest self-healing by simply believing they will be healed. A patient would take a sugar pill thinking it would cure their ills, and it would. We’ve all heard about it. It also goes with knowing about ills and diseases, and contracting them as I wrote about in my last post.

It is the beliefs you have about something that makes it harmful or not. If you believe it is harmful, it will tend to be true. There was a study using 40 subjects. They were all given a saline solution to inhale and were told it was allergenic.

19 of the 40 developed asthmatic symptoms, 12 developed bronchial spasms which completely disappeared minutes after being given another saline solution which they were told was medicine that would alleviate their symptoms.



All modern drugs today are tested against a placebo before being released to the public and many former medications have been taken off the market when it was found the healing properties were only due to the placebo effect.

I remember a great aunt who always seemed to get her illness and health issues based on what she heard about from friends and family. We found it amusing and thought she was just imagining she had these illnesses, when in fact she actually did have some of them.

Placebo Effect with Surgery

In 1994, Dr. J Bruce Moseley had 10 patients scheduled for an operation to relieve arthritic pain in their knees. Two of the patients underwent arthroscopic surgery, scraping and rinsing of the knee joint, three had rinsing alone, five had no procedure done at all with just a cut on the knee to give them the impression they had gone through the surgery.

Six months after the surgery, all the patients reported a large decrease in the pain in their knees without the five without the surgery knowing they had not had it performed on them.

Hypnosis and Mind-Body Interaction

Did you know a good hypnotist can actually get a person to tan their skin? I’m sure you’ve all heard of the hypnotist that told someone that they were holding a red hot item and a blister forms on their skin. In a study, one in five people developed a blister from touching the item.

Hypnosis is being used in place of anesthesia in surgery. It is also used to help with skin conditions, bronchial conditions, pain management, weightloss, illness and disease. Kristen Prevallet states on her website, “Hypnosis is grounded in the belief that the most successful healing and the most dramatic changes happen when you become your own health advocate.”

My Testimonial



Six years ago, I was diagnosed with Trochanteric Bursitis in the right hip, which caused severe pain to radiate down my thigh. For the next six years, I had the coritsone shots, anti-inflammatory medications and an experimental plasma shot, none of which helped. The Orthopedic Surgeon said the next step would be surgery. After having had surgery on my shoulder and elbow, it was the last thing I wanted.

Finally, with the use of hypnosis tapes, I was able to use the mind-body connection to heal the bursitis and have had no pain in my hip and thigh for the past 4 months. I have also been able to alleviate all symptoms of diabetes and fibromyalgia.

I use the tapes recorded by Dr. Steven G. Jones, who is an internationally known hypnotherapist of the highest calibre. I was so impressed with the results I have seen that I am now an affiliate of his. You can find an extraordinary list of hypnosis tapes at covering all aspects of life and health.

This is mind-body healing, and everybody has the ability to heal themselves in order to live an abundant life that everyone deserves.

To Your Abundant Health!


Miracle or Mind-Body Healing of a Truly Abundant Woman?

Anita Moorjani

Anita Moorjani

I recently had the opportunity to read a book written by a truly abundant and inspirational woman. Her name is Anita Moorjani and the book is called “Dying To Be Me”. Click HERE to read my review of the book. Although I knew of mind-body healing and had even experienced it myself to a degree,  Anita’s story was one of absolute inspiration. I would like to share an abbreviated version of her life.

Anita’s Young Life

Anita was born to Indian parents in Singapore. Her paternal grandfather was a textile merchant, and her father traveled the world. When he was finally able to settle down, Anita was 2 years old, and he chose to move to Hong Kong. Because of the vast diversity of the population there, she learned to speak English, Sindhi and Cantonese.

hindu girl

hindu girl

Growing up in Hong Kong, Anita was immersed in 3 different cultures. Since Hong Kong was a British colony, she was exposed to the English way of life at the British Catholic schools she and her brother, Anoop, attended. At the same time, the majority of the population, along with the housekeeper, Ah Fong, was Cantonese and practiced Buddhism and Taoism. And, as I said she was born to Indian parents.

Since she spent much time with Ah Fong after school, shopping and visiting Ah Fongs parents and child, she was very familiar with their way of life and traditions. And, although Anita and her brother, Anoop, went to British Catholic schools in the majority Buddhist Hong Kong, the family practiced the traditional Hindu religion.

Needless to say, being taught by Catholic Nuns in religious studies and then practicing the Hindu traditions brought quite a bit of confusion and angst into Anita’s life. Catholic Nuns were telling her if she didn’t get baptized, she wouldn’t go to heaven. Her mother’s attempts to comfort her on the different ways religions followed different paths to heaven or enlightenment, only relieved the angst she felt for a short time.

Anita’s Teen and Young Adult Years

As Anita grew, continuing to practice the Hindu religion and traditions, she began to question her path. She had no desire to follow her parents’ guidance and agree to an arranged marriage. She wanted to continue her education and go on to college. Her father wanted her to get married and become the traditional, subservient wife of a man in a respectable Hindu family. She felt at odds and began thinking she was flawed in some way because she wouldn’t settle for what her parents wanted for her.

During this time in her life, she met the man she was to marry, Danny Moorjani. She had her misgivings when they first started dating as he was Sindhi. She was sure he was looking for the perfect, submissive woman to be his wife. As they grew closer, though, she found he also questioned and even rejected a lot of the Hindu traditions when it came to women and marriage, and embraced the modernized life in which his wife could pursue her dreams and be a contributing member of society with her work.

In January of 1995, Danny proposed to Anita. Two months later, Anita’s father passed away in his sleep and the family took him to his hometown in India for the funeral. Of course, she was devastated thinking how much she had disappointed him when he was alive.

On December 6, 1995, Anita and Danny were married in a traditional Indian ceremony with festivities that lasted almost a week. She was so happy, thinking they were going to live happily ever after…..

Not long after the wedding, Anita’s brother left for India to start a business there and took their mother with him. For the first time, Anita was living in a different country than the rest of her family, which devastated her. Also, during this time, those in her culture were constantly reminding her she should be having children as it was expected right after marriage. This, of course, she did not want, and again felt inadequate in the eyes of the people of her culture.

Fear and Confirmation of Disease

In 2001, her best friend, Soni, was diagnosed with cancer. A few months later, they found out Danny’s sister’s husband had an aggressive form of cancer. The news of these two having cancer instilled a deep fear in her as they were very close to her age. She soon began to fear being around anything that might cause cancer. As this fear progressed, she began to fear life itself.



In April, 2002, Anita found a lump in her right shoulder. She went in for tests and was told she had lymphoma, and terror took over from there. She refused chemotherapy because she saw how it ravaged her friends’ bodies.

Disease and Death of Loved Ones

It wasn’t long after that, Anita lost her best friend to cancer, and shortly later, her brother-in-law. She ran through the gamut of emotions, every day, day and night – anger, fear, dread, frustration, desperation.

Searching for a Healing Venue

She was seeing several specialists, along with Eastern healers. She was trying hypnotherapy, meditation, prayers, mantras and Chinese herbal remedies to no avail. She continued tp deteriorate. She traveled to India for Ayurvedic treatment, and, for awhile, felt much better. But as soon as she returned and listened to the skepticism of her friends regarding her treatments, the cancer came back with a vengeance.

She became stressed about food, one healing modality stated meat was bad, another stated meat was good, dairy was bad. Yet another stated vegetables were wrong. She worried about karma and what she must have done to deserve what was happening. She lived in a constant state of fear and continued to deteriorate in unbelievable pain.

Near Death Experience



On the morning of February 2, 2006, Anita was rushed to the hospital close to death and fell into a coma. Doctors and nurses were rushing around trying to keep her from dying. The Oncologist had already told Danny though, that although her heart may be beating, she was gone.

It was at this time, Anita realized she was fully conscious and aware of what was going on around her, and even down the hall where one of the doctors was talking to Danny. All the pain she had endured was gone. She realized she was witnessing this from outside her physical body.

Her near death experience is more than I can describe here, unless I want to write a book myself. When she returned from this and woke from her coma, her cancer went into remission and soon disappeared. She has now written a book of her experience and is speaking at conferences, lectures and meetings about her experience.

Dying To  Be Me

Dying To Be Me

Anita Moorjani’s experience is a fantastic example of mind-body, maybe soul-body healing. After reading of her experience, I have no doubt we can all experience healing of illness and disease when we have a positive mind and heart and lose fear. Her book goes into so much better detail than I can give here in this short post.  You will find my book review posted under Book and Movie Reviews.